Recently, I spent 13 - 14 hours talking on the phone with a guy I met online. Our conversation was split between two days and much of that time was spent with him doing most of the talking and with many awkward silences in between. From this experience, I learned...
Mindsets That Make You Afraid To Stand Up For Yourself
Being able to stand up for yourself doesn’t come easy for some of us. When we’re faced with someone making snide comments to our face we just smile and giggle along. When we’re being bossed around by family members or...
My Parents Sheltered Me. Now I Have Social Anxiety.
I didn't realize I was being sheltered by my parents until I got to college. Up until then, my life revolved around them and I had little to no experience in life. I noticed that I was the odd one out when I would be the only one shocked at the things my peers talked about. While they saw it as normal to go places without adult supervision. I found it new and scary. While they shared stories of spending the night at a guys house and running the streets with friends. I found it appalling that they were out there acting like they were grown!...
4 People Pleasing Behaviors That Make You Socially Awkward
When you have low self-esteem, you may find yourself people pleasing in an attempt to make up for your perceived flaws. But there are some people pleasing behaviors that have the potential to make you come off as socially awkward....
Get To The Root Of Social Anxiety (70+ Self-Reflective Questions)
The root of social anxiety is simply the negative self-perceptions you have about yourself. YOU think you're weird, boring, unlikeable - whatever. Because of that, you fear other people will think the same thing and...
How To Stop Being Bored When You Have No Friends
As a socially anxious person, I haven't been able to make/keep friends since I was 13 years old. There's the occasional coworker or guy from a dating site to hang out with. But since my brain won't allow me to open up to them, no lasting connections have been made....
4 Ways Growing Up Black Gave Me Social Anxiety
Okay. Obviously, growing up black isn't the ONLY reason I developed social anxiety. There's things like me not being socialized as a kid. Also, me inheriting the quiet gene from my dads side. Plus many more things. ...
9 Ways God Provided In The Midst Of Social Anxiety
Since 2022, God had been telling me to get into community to help my social anxiety. He lead me to a small group and up until 2023 I had been avoiding attending because of fear and previous embarrassment....
Confessing My Social Anxiety To Small Group
I had been attending a new church for a few weeks before I went to one of their small group meetings. If you read Part 1 – Is Community The Way To Overcome Social Anxiety? – then you would know...
Is Community The Way To Overcome Social Anxiety?
This post is about how God told me I needed community to help me overcome social anxiety and how he led me to it. Skip to the end for 4 Ways Community Can Help Your Social Anxiety. I Thought Social...
God Told Me I Had To Heal First
This post is about the beginning of my self-healing journey to overcome social anxiety. I Prayed To God About My Social Anxiety I think it was October 2022 when I started asking God what in the world did I have...
How I Started Forcing Myself Out Of The House
I Never Got Out Of The House Because I Made Excuses I spent my entire life in the house because I didn’t have friends to go anywhere with. Even when I did meet people who tried to include me I’d...